Can't Force Other People to Change - Help Them Instead

Do you have a friend that don't know their career path? Is one of your family member is deeply in debt? Have you got a friend whose romantic life is a series of disasters? Are your parents severely overweight? Is your partner a drinker? In our life routine, many people around us have a problem that we know.

The chances are, there’s someone in our life who you believe is in need of change … but they’re not making any progress. If I'm devoted myself to change, perhaps making great strides in my personal and professional life, then it can be frustrating to see others – friends and loved ones – remaining stagnant.

So what can I do about it? Nothing!!! I can’t force other people to change. Surely I can nag, threaten or cajole someone... but if they’re really going to change in the long-term, that impulse has to come from within them.

So, how am i going to help them...
* Let them know I value them,
* Listen to what they want,
* Share experience with them,
* Be supportive to them, and
* Encourage them to talk more or express their feeling.

Ultimately, the greatest kindness I can do is to accept other people for who they are, and to accept that their path in life is not going to be the same as mine.

Let them find their own way. My role is to be a tour guide, it’s to be a companion on the route, perhaps pointing out dangers and helping them over rough spots – but ultimately letting them choose their own direction...

About Me . . .

All the sudden come into my mind to have a blog, to share and express my feeling. Most of the content in this blog is about my life. It can be person around me and my interest, mainly in traveling and food. Life is short, so just enjoy it and value people around us. God bless me.