Feeling Down? Ways to Boost Your Mood

Our moods are like weather, constantly changing. When a cloud appears, it’s time to mobilize all your resources to help you get through it. Whether you feel blue, moody or just plain gloomy, here are some useful ways to help the cloud pass a little more quickly.

1. Reduce your schedule so you have more time to relax.
2. Write your feelings down on paper.
3. Listen to your favorite music.
4. Minimize your alcohol intake.
5. Find a balance between keeping yourself busy and letting yourself rest.
6. Look your best when you walk out the door.
7. Watch a funny movie.
8. Do something special for yourself – take hot bath, eat a meal of your favorite foods, get a massage.
9. Talk to a trusted friend about how you are feeling.
10. Move your body – exercise, take a yoga class, enjoy a walk in nature.
11. Be around loving family and friends.
12. Go to sleep at the same time or more early in the evening, taking an hour to wind down with a book and some herbal tea before you get into bed.
13. Find the most loving place within you and extend your love to the part of you that is hurting.
14. Shift your attention to something more supportive.
15. Go inside yourself to find the strength to keep going.
16. Remember that the feeling will pass – and if it doesn’t seek professional help.
17. Plan an enjoyable activity with a friend.
18. Smile. Research shows that when we smile, we eventually begin to feel happier.
19. Let yourself have the space to cry and move on later.
20. Take some slow, deep breaths, to relax your mind

Note: If your symptoms are extreme enough to affect your daily functioning for two weeks or more, or if you have thoughts of hurting yourself, please see your family doctor or a counselor right away.

Bad Mood - How to Get Out ! ! !

We all have times when we need to get out of a bad mood, or escape from a negative frame of mind.

I know I need to make an effort to change how I’m feeling when I find myself spiraling into a black mood. I might be unreasonably angry, irritable or tearful. I might be in one of those moods which we all get from time to time – wanting to scream, or hit something (or someone). Obviously, this isn’t pleasant for me or for the people around me, and it destroys my ability to focus on doing anything productive, just like I'm ordered telur planta at the mamak instead of roti planta (sigh).

So I’ve found, partly through trial-and-error, and partly through reading the advice of others, things which help me to pull myself out of a bad mood.

When I need to break out of a black mood, these are great instant fixes:

* Anything that makes me laugh. Comedy movie – silly but it works...because my girlfriend tried before, even just for the 2 hours in the cinema.

* Hugging someone. This helps when I’m sad, not always when I’m angry! But the timing and location must be right.

* McDonald's Ice Cream. Really work for me, but need at least 3 cones...

* Driving Fast. Last time I like to used it, but much much lesser now, because I need to take care someone forever...

* Going Uphill. When stress and moody, perhaps driving up to a hill to relax. Nice feeling when after rain or sunset...

* Nice Fine Dining. Last time is crave everything into the stomach, now is more fine dining, especially western with Guinness or Wine.

Whatever activities you use to change your state of mind, they should be things that make you laugh or relax. The main problem I struggle with, though, is that when I’m feeling very upset or wound up with something, I tried to cheer up. It’s hard to explain this (or even understand it!).

Rationally, I know this is nonsense: I can and do change my state to escape from a horrible mood. The hardest thing is to just remember this, and to turn to my list of “mood-breaking” activities.

One thing that does help is when my girlfriend recognizes that I’m getting into a bad mood; she’ll encourage me to go for McDonald's Ice Cream or she will be the "scutiest" cheering me up , or she’ll come and give me a hug. If you’ve got a close family member or friend you can rely on, give them permission to tell you to take a "time out" when they recognize that you’re in a bad mood and thank them (once you’re firmly back to your usual self!)... I'm cheer up after writing this...

What It Takes to Stay In A Relationship...

I’ve been thinking lately about how there is a lot of interest in “finding” in our life:- finding the right mate, finding the right job, finding the right pair of shoes. There are endless articles, techniques, and ideas about how to find that right thing but am I learning fast enough to adapt it? How to help good things continue to be good, over the long haul?

Here’s what I think it takes to stay with a good relationship—whether that relationship is with a workplace, a friend, or a life partner:

1. Be Willing to be Crazy
No matter how perfect that thing or person I've chosen, I'm going to start doing crazy stuff as I move deeper into relationship. My fears, limiting beliefs, and patterns from childhood will start showing up. I’ll need to be willing to do my own personal growth work to mitigate the effects.

2. Know That This Too Shall Pass
Some days I'm are going to be dancing over moonbeams with joy about my relationship. Some days I'm are going to cranky and hopeless. Some days my connection will feel incredible, some days I may be wondering. Staying comes from knowing that this too shall pass and from not taking the mood of any particular day too seriously. I’ve become fond of the term “mental weather.” Some days I’ve got rain, some days sun, but quite often, I need to do nothing more than wait, and the poor weather clears.

3. Bring Back The Relationship, Again and Again
When I feel hurt or disappointed in a relationship, the natural reaction is to retreat and to make up a negative narrative about the way that person “just is.” The hard thing to do is to bring my feelings back into the relationship by talking about them with the other person. This means trusting that my relationship and the other person are not static, but able to evolve.

4. Take Responsibility for Your Experience
Nobody can give the relationship that I want. I can be well-matched, but even then, I’ll have to play an active part in co-creating the relationship I want. That requires knowing what is important, articulating it, and making requests. That’s what it means to take responsibility for the quality of the experience in the relationships.

No matter what happen, I still can't let it go and will do anything for you to make our relationship last forever.

Can't Force Other People to Change - Help Them Instead

Do you have a friend that don't know their career path? Is one of your family member is deeply in debt? Have you got a friend whose romantic life is a series of disasters? Are your parents severely overweight? Is your partner a drinker? In our life routine, many people around us have a problem that we know.

The chances are, there’s someone in our life who you believe is in need of change … but they’re not making any progress. If I'm devoted myself to change, perhaps making great strides in my personal and professional life, then it can be frustrating to see others – friends and loved ones – remaining stagnant.

So what can I do about it? Nothing!!! I can’t force other people to change. Surely I can nag, threaten or cajole someone... but if they’re really going to change in the long-term, that impulse has to come from within them.

So, how am i going to help them...
* Let them know I value them,
* Listen to what they want,
* Share experience with them,
* Be supportive to them, and
* Encourage them to talk more or express their feeling.

Ultimately, the greatest kindness I can do is to accept other people for who they are, and to accept that their path in life is not going to be the same as mine.

Let them find their own way. My role is to be a tour guide, it’s to be a companion on the route, perhaps pointing out dangers and helping them over rough spots – but ultimately letting them choose their own direction...

About Me . . .

All the sudden come into my mind to have a blog, to share and express my feeling. Most of the content in this blog is about my life. It can be person around me and my interest, mainly in traveling and food. Life is short, so just enjoy it and value people around us. God bless me.